My client came to coaching with the goal of finding their calm. They live and work in a busy chaotic home with young kids and they were struggling to find peace and quiet. Stress, anger and frustration were getting them down and they didn’t know where to start with working out how to find their calm.
First we talked about what situations cause stress and anger. This can be quite hard to discuss, and we needed to have a lot of trust and honesty between us. My client was able to share openly their experiences of stress and anger, and we talked about the impact of this on their life and relationships with friends and family.
Next we tried to find a way of reframing their reactions to those triggers. They identified situations of stress and explored the feelings that came up. Then they thought about new ways to consciously react to stressful events, and began to practise these more positive reactions over the weeks of coaching so that it became a habit.
We also thought about peaceful spaces within the home, and enjoyable, relaxing activities that could be done in them. This helped them actively look for opportunities to spend some time alone, focusing on interests and hobbies, in a calm environment.
Lastly we visualised a lovely, relaxing memory of a beautiful place, and practised being present in that feeling. My client was able to use this visualisation to experience a memory of calmness, and revisit this memory when they wanted to find a quiet moment.
We all need to find the calm in our lives, and this process worked well for us. Maybe you have other ways to find your calm and I would love to hear about them.
